How to Feel Good On-Demand

Most of us know that feeling good is not only about feeling good — it’s about how feeling good affects everything we experience and do in life. When we’re feeling good, we’re more likely to get things done, more likely to be more social, eat healthier, exercise, and complete projects — than when we’re not feeling good.

The challenge is being able to feel good when things go wrong, or when we don’t have what we want.

I’ve discovered a very, very simple, but incredibly powerful 2-minute technique that — if you practice it regularly — will help you to develop the ability to change your emotional state from triggered to feeling good, instantly, on-demand.

What is Feeling Good?

In order to get the most out of this technique, it will help to understand (and remind yourself) exactly what “feeling good” is:

  • Negative emotions are the sensations we feel from stress chemicals like adrenaline and cortisol.
  • Thoughts are connections between neurons, in the neocortex of the brain.
  • Connections in the neocortex trigger the limbic system to produce matching chemicals. To put it simplistically, for clarity: thoughts about “bad” stuff will trigger stress chemicals, and thoughts about “good” stuff will trigger happy chemicals.

Why Is it So Hard to Feel Good Sometimes?

I remember trying so hard to think positively, and “look on the bright side” while looking at my empty bank account. I also remember trying to be positive about situations that involved being let down or disappointed by the actions and behaviors of other people. And the worst times — when I was working so hard to make changes to myself and my life, and yet there seemed to be so much self-sabotage and failure.

The stress chemicals that cause negative emotions are the same chemicals that are produced during the “fight-freeze-flight” emergency state.

So, when we’re feeling worried, anxious, angry, hurt, or any other negative emotion, the body and brain are basically in the same state they would be in, if we were in physical danger.

  • Digestion, and other systems that are not essential for surviving immediate physical danger, are reduced or shut down.
  • Healing is halted by the cells of the body switching from growth mode, to protection mode.
  • Blood is drained from the prefrontal cortex of the brain, to the back of the brain — reducing or shutting down cognitive thinking.

How to Feel Good On-Demand

Bearing in mind that thoughts are connections between neurons that trigger matching chemicals, as you think of something or someone you love or are excited about, your limbic system immediately starts to create “feel-good” chemicals.

Tips and Troubleshooting

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Training Your Brain and Body to Feel Good On-Demand — Regardless of What’s Going On in Your Life

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Watch this FREE Video Series, and follow along, doing the exercises, to train your brain and body to feel good, more of the time!

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Ex-struggler, mind-set coach, writer, brain enthusiast, and effervescent cheerleader of those who choose to find ways to improve themselves and their lives.

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