How to Feel Good On-Demand

Odille Remmert
8 min readJul 4, 2019

Most of us know that feeling good is not only about feeling good — it’s about how feeling good affects everything we experience and do in life. When we’re feeling good, we’re more likely to get things done, more likely to be more social, eat healthier, exercise, and complete projects — than when we’re not feeling good.

The challenge comes in being able to feel good when things are not going the way we’d like them to go.

The challenge is being able to feel good when things go wrong, or when we don’t have what we want.

I’ve discovered a very, very simple, but incredibly powerful 2-minute technique that — if you practice it regularly — will help you to develop the ability to change your emotional state from triggered to feeling good, instantly, on-demand.

What is Feeling Good?

In order to get the most out of this technique, it will help to understand (and remind yourself) exactly what “feeling good” is:

  • Positive emotions are the sensations we feel from chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin.
  • Negative emotions are the sensations we feel from stress chemicals like adrenaline and cortisol.
  • Thoughts are connections between neurons, in the neocortex of the brain.
  • Connections in the neocortex trigger the limbic system to produce matching chemicals. To put it simplistically, for clarity: thoughts about “bad” stuff will trigger stress chemicals, and thoughts about “good” stuff will trigger happy chemicals.

Why Is it So Hard to Feel Good Sometimes?

I remember trying so hard to think positively, and “look on the bright side” while looking at my empty bank account. I also remember trying to be positive about situations that involved being let down or disappointed by the actions and behaviors of other people. And the worst times — when I was working so hard to make changes to myself and my life, and yet there seemed to be so much self-sabotage and failure.

I knew that the negative feelings and stress were not only not helping the situation, they were making it worse — they were affecting my…

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Odille Remmert

Author of: "Change What Happened to You: How to Use Neuroscience to Get the Life You Want by Changing Your Negative Childhood Memories"